Attention: A True Gift

Re-learning how to pay attention to the people who I cherish the most is an act of love. Everyone, including myself, wants the people their closest with listening – and I mean really listening – to them, noticing the things about them that doesn’t require a word.

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It can cause major relationship transformations if I commit to re-learning a very important skill, such as this one. Attention to detail is a way to show someone I really care for them. Sure, I can hear things, while I’m busy doing a gazillion other things but stopping to see their face, what might be getting left unsaid – that’s truly valuable.

It gives me a greater chance of truly living a life full of joy. It’s a gift that doesn’t cost me anything either, but worth so very much!

I adore the people in my life, and I grimace at the thought of them questioning the love I have for them. Changing this bad habit is worth them not having to doubt that. It’s completely selfish of me to put my attention on anything else, especially as they’re attempting to communicate with me!

Because I’m also then leaving something unsaid. “I’m very busy, but go ahead, speak. Trust me, I can hear you.” How arrogant.

It’s my duty – as a wife, mother, sister, daughter, niece, friend, any role I have in a relationship – to feel humble that they’d even want to communicate with me. But also to put what they’re needing from me in that moment, ahead of any other obligation. They’re my priority in those situations! No additional questions are necessary.

Attention to Pray

So my prayer is that my family will know each day how special they are to me. I ask God to help us constantly make one another understand we’re loved and valuable. In Jesus name, Amen.

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This Goes Out to You, Mr. Husband: All For One, One For All

Dear Mister Husband,

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Sometimes, we all need a reminder. So consider this yours, Mister: Look in on the Mrs. every once in a while, just to see how she’s doing. On both an emotional and physical level. It’s possible she’s barely hanging on, however she just isn’t saying it to you out loud. She very well may not even realize it herself. Us ladies like to soak in everyone else’s problems, which leads to us losing some of our light. She’s probably so good at all that she does, you wouldn’t even suspect that she doesn’t “got this”. However, no one can keep moving the way we do forever. Make sure you’ve got her in this area, ok? She’s really not Superwoman, you know? It’s probably a good thing, too. Because our world needs a lot of saving. Just build her back up from time to time.

She shouldn’t be doing it all, attempting to be all your family’s everything. It’ll not fare well for you, Mister – you’ll get the bulk of the eventual wrath.

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If someone’s dealing with a lot of stress, they might get a little bit cranky, friends. If she feels like she can’t breathe, she’s going to break – probably over your head – very soon, Mister. When you don’t stop to think about what’s best for her, she ain’t going to be getting all sexy for you either, ya know? You ever hear that quote: sometimes you hurt so much, you become used to it. Don’t let her get used to it. When the Mrs. starts getting overly pessimistic, it’s a good guess she’s running on “E”.

Look Around The House, Mister

We’ve all likely got bunches of beautiful hangings on our walls with sayings about family, or maybe even Scripture. Those always come down to an “all for one, one for all” kinda deal. Meaning we’ve all got each other’s backs. Things we’re hanging in our homes say this. Remember, “When you love someone you protect them from pain, you don’t become the cause of it.”

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Pretty straight forward, right? Protect what God trusts you with.

Pulse Check

Double check that she’s getting enough breaks. Let her be alone for sometimes, just to relax her shoulders, because we tend to tense up.

Definitely make sure that she’s got some minutes in the day – EACH day – to read her Bible. Her weeks may be so full of stuff, that her brain feels like it’s rattling.

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Let this tired lady breathe. When she’s falling apart, help her out a little more.

If she’s yelling at you nonstop, then look at what you cannot see for a change. She might just be so exhausted that she can hardly see straight.

There’s No “I” in Team

This is a group effort, guys. Have you forgotten to be a part of it? Will she turn to you when she’s feeling overwhelmed? Should it be a yes, then GOOD ON YOU MATE. Should that not be the case, then stop the whining, about how things are so much harder in your relationship nowadays, yada yada.

Have a conversation about all she’s got going on, to see ways you might be able to take some of the load off. We ladies just have a knack for over-scheduling ourselves.


We’re the bomb at doing multiple things at once! However, when we hit that wall, we hit it hard. Remove the superhero mask she’s wearing, toss it over your shoulder (and then pick it up). Ask her to please take a break.

Remind her that she shouldn’t be overdoing it all the time. Tell her to go sit in a quiet room to do whatever she pleases.

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Though it’s not your job to save her, it IS your duty to keep her safe. You’re the only man of royalty in her life, or at least on this earth. You’re the biggest influence of her world.

Allowing this chance to pass you by would be a damn shame. If you’re good at loving this woman, your value increases tremendously in her eyes.

Put Her First

When you make your wife a priority, she’ll trust you with her life. She’ll truly be the happiest woman in the world.

Down to our souls, everybody wants to be loved and to be loved well. Our desire’s to know we’ve been important to someone else’s life.

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And women, we really like to know that our husbands notice all we do. It’s a motivator for us to keep pressing onward. Motivate your Mrs.!

Stare into that beautiful soul. Check if it still shines.

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See how she’s doing again. Always remember, she needs your prayers. Run the race right beside her. Don’t let your friendship disappear. You may be the only one that she’s got left, with the busyness in life. When she’s grumpy, it means that she’s probably getting a little tired of fighting that good fight. Everyone has to stop to enjoy their life every now and then. That means your wife, too. Her life wasn’t meant to be the family’s servant nonstop. And actually, there was a time that she was just a little-bitty princess. Years have gone by, however the things that she wished for are probably still there in her heart. There’s no doubt she has made many sacrifices, for you and your children. Cherish this, however she must be able to take some breathers. God made this woman to serve His purpose, not to serve yours.

Not Trying to Be Cold

It’s not my intention to come off as cruel here, however it’s crucial to tend to things your wife requires. Otherwise she might burn out on tending to things you require. Funny how it all comes back full circle, isn’t it? Kinda cool, actually.

Go lift your wife up to God. And pay attention. Start with the first thing though.

To Him Be the Glory,

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