Obviously, at some point, all of us have either gotten or will get hurt by someone.
When the time comes, and someone does end up hurting me – whether it’s unintentional or vengeful – I’m going to have a decision to make:
I can forgive the person for whatever things they do or say that I feel hurt by, and try to move forward with the relationship. Each day I work towards having a peaceful existence in all aspects of my life, so this choice is the one that I’d hope that I would lean towards. I mean, let’s face it, my not being willing to forgive someone will continue to affect me, probably as much as the initial act that hurt me affected me.
The alternative is to choose being offended, and ultimately make the decision to distance myself from the other person. Since the way we instinctively react to someone hurting us is often based on how we’re feeling, this will usually be the most chosen option of the two. This is the one that’ll also lead us straight into isolation eventually, if we’re not careful.
Nobody’s perfect, so if I choose to be offended every time I get my feelings hurt, I’ll ultimately end up being with me, myself and I. And though I’m pretty damn good company to have around (I’m just saying), there’s likely going to come a time when not too far down the road, it sure might be nice to have another person to talk to.
But, Either Way…
What I DON’T want to do – at least, in the long run – is whine and complain to my husband (or any other person) without coming to a resolution. And I DEFINITELY shouldn’t gripe about it to the world, via social media, because chances are it’s something that’s able to be handled in a more private fashion.
And honestly? The only people who like those type of ranting and raving posts..they aren’t usually going to be very genuine or lifelong friends more often than not, because everybody knows there’s ALWAYS two-sides to the story. And if someone’s that quick to agree with and coddle you without probing a little deeper, then how quickly will they believe things that someone else might rant and raves about when it’s against you?
In my opinion, sulking about the issue and allowing all of those negative vibes to build up – which is part of what comes with the being offended – is a very immature and childish response. I tell my 5-year-old this, when she’s upset about something her brother, Chris or I do: “We’ve all moved on already, Jocelynn. So, if you’re going to stomp around with a grumpy looking face, then go and make yourself feel better by doing that in your own room, because nobody wants to be around that kind of attitude.”