A Given: We Will Get Hurt 

Whether it’s accidental or purposely, if someone has hurt me I’ve got a choice to make…

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Obviously, at some point, all of us have either gotten or will get hurt by someone. 

When the time comes, and someone does end up hurting me – whether it’s unintentional or vengeful – I’m going to have a decision to make: 


I can forgive the person for whatever things they do or say that I feel hurt by, and try to move forward with the relationship. Each day I work towards having a peaceful existence in all aspects of my life, so this choice is the one that I’d hope that I would lean towards. I mean, let’s face it, my not being willing to forgive someone will continue to affect me, probably as much as the initial act that hurt me affected me. 

Be Offended 

The alternative is to choose being offended, and ultimately make the decision to distance myself from the other person. Since the way we instinctively react to someone hurting us is often based on how we’re feeling, this will usually be the most chosen option of the two. This is the one that’ll also lead us straight into isolation eventually, if we’re not careful.

Nobody’s perfect, so if I choose to be offended every time I get my feelings hurt, I’ll ultimately end up being with me, myself and I. And though I’m pretty damn good company to have around (I’m just saying), there’s likely going to come a time when not too far down the road, it sure might be nice to have another person to talk to. 

But, Either Way…

What I DON’T want to do – at least, in the long run – is whine and complain to my husband (or any other person) without coming to a resolution. And I DEFINITELY shouldn’t gripe about it to the world, via social media, because chances are it’s something that’s able to be handled in a more private fashion.

And honestly? The only people who like those type of ranting and raving posts..they aren’t usually going to be very genuine or lifelong friends more often than not, because everybody knows there’s ALWAYS two-sides to the story. And if someone’s that quick to agree with and coddle you without probing a little deeper, then how quickly will they believe things that someone else might rant and raves about when it’s against you? 

Grow Up!

In my opinion, sulking about the issue and allowing all of those negative vibes to build up – which is part of what comes with the being offended – is a very immature and childish response. I tell my 5-year-old this, when she’s upset about something her brother, Chris or I do: “We’ve all moved on already, Jocelynn. So, if you’re going to stomp around with a grumpy looking face, then go and make yourself feel better by doing that in your own room, because nobody wants to be around that kind of attitude.”

‘Nuff said. 

Losing My Way

Christians Beware: Losing Everything Is Still An Option!

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Christianity isn’t something that guarantees people an easier life. I’m a Christian, and the truth is, I’ve been disillusioned into thinking that my faith could never be swayed. But I don’t believe this any longer. I know that as a believer, I’m just as capable of getting lost as anyone else. 

The reality is that it can happen again – to me and to any of you.

Cause I Gotta Have Faith

I have no desire to wake up one day and find myself so far from my faith, that it feels impossible to get it back..at least to where it was. The key to maintaining a strong spiritual walk is being consistent in working at it. AND heavily guarding it. It has to be both! I know that now. 

The things we find ourselves tempted by aren’t going to just go away. If I find myself unmotivated to do my Bible reading/studies, the temptations have this absolutely grotesque ability to presenting themselves in a very strong way the second I decide to let my focus shift – no matter how shortly it shifts. Don’t give these bastards the opportunity to sneak their way in! In an instant of weakness, everything can change. You see, I’ve learned that just because I’m in this faith spot today, it’s not guaranteed I’ll be here tomorrow. 

Recently I found myself in a spot where there was a pretty major decision that I had to make. On the left, I was being offered the chance at throwing caution to the wind; to live in the moment. And on the right, I had the promise of certain victory, though maybe not instantly. Letting it all go in an instant – ONE instant – had I not been mindful of what I’d be turning away from. 

Sad But True

What’s sad, is that I see people daily who are choosing to turn in the opposite direction. I don’t judge them, or at least, I work really hard to not judge them – because I too have felt the pressure to cave. This type of “freedom” to go on and live without regards: to my responsibilities, to my faith. “Just do you”. Can I just say…what a crock that statement is?!

That option, to “just do you”? I don’t have that option. And neither do you. It’s a bullshit lie! Because, whether I choose to face it or not, what I do – it affects way more than just me. What I do will reach down to my family, and to everybody I’m close with – hell, even to people I’ve never met! “Just do you” is something people tell themselves to release any ownership. 

BUT – and there’s always a “but” – there’s some good news. I don’t live disillusioned (at least in THIS sense) anymore. I know that if I let my guard down I can easily be swayed. For many people, being swayed has already been the case. (I’m getting to the positive part, I promise!)

So you let yourself fall asleep at the wheel, and everything you worked up to dissipated in a hot minute? Guess what? You can get it back! It might be hard..no, scratch that, it WILL be hard! And you might be facing consequences as part of the aftermath from your decisions..this is part of what goes along with “just doing you”, so pony on up and deal with it!

But start wherever you’re at, and begin to rebuild the life that you’re meant to live! It’s a great life, you know?