Flirting with anyone, other than a spouse, is unnecessary when you’re married.
Trust me though, I completely get it!
Nobody’s able to tick us off quite like a spouse! Then along comes Joe Blow, and he offers a little attention, right when we’re hurting for it – we obviously get tempted.
I mean, nothing’s wrong with a few “harmless” interactions. Our spouse may be more likely to pay better attention to us! Right? Wrong. Don’t. Do. It.
Flirting ISN’T the Answer
I’ve gotta say, it’s just mind-boggling to me, the amount of people that go through this type of thing. It’s a sure way to slowly kill your marriage!
Only, I’m not sure why it’s so preposterous to me. I’ve had my fair share of opportunities to respond to a flirtatious man.
No Excuses for Extramarital Flirting
There’s no good reason for flirting outside of your relationship, though! It’s a catalyst for indiscretions.
“I’m just a friendly person!” That’s actually what one married guy – yep, there’s been more than one – said to my husband, when he confronted this “gentleman” about inappropriate advances towards me. Now this isn’t saying there’s no men (or women), who have truly friendly personalities, and then get accused of it being anything more!
Who in their right mind would buy this “friendly person” excuse, though? Particularly, when it’s clear as mud that your spouse’s friendliness is similar to that of a dog in heat! Since I’m keeping it real here, I don’t think that a flirting spouse has issues with being too much of a “social person”; the more likely issue, is they have to feed their obsessive ego.
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This is what an inappropriate flirt might look like:
– being overly polite to the opposite sex;
– having inappropriate phone conversations that aren’t ones they’d want their spouse to hear. How the flirting’s done doesn’t really matter; ALL the ways of doing it will likely lead to the dissolution of a marriage.
My ONLY Romantic Partner
My romance is given to one man that’s worthy of it – my husband. He can flirt with me until the end of time!
Whether he is or isn’t though, nobody else should even bother, because it isn’t a point that I’m willing to make in that way. I call this “being in a mature relationship”.
Marriage has enough struggles
without adding inappropriate behavior to the mix. That may just light a fire up that you’re unable to contain! I stated earlier how I’ve been on the receiving end of quite a few shameful advances, and for the most part I’ve got it covered, without requiring my husband’s involvement.
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So to the new, and future, gentlemen “friends” I make on social media, I offer you a few words of advice:
– Don’t invite me on Messenger, DM or otherwise! Not interested.
– If your first remarks are about my physical appearance, these will also probably be your last remarks.
– I’ve been gifted with a very attentive husband; one who pays attention to details, such as when a gentleman “loves” pictures of me, that also happen to be ones without him in it. The value of your “friendship”, well, it means about a quarter of the amount his comfort level means.
Besides all of that though, I love connections that I’ve been able to make online! It’s a fantastic way of knowing who’s in your community, and sphere of influence; for both my career, and being able to provide (and/or receive) encouragement (and/or prayers) to (and/or from) my brothers and sisters in Christ.
Are you presently married? Have you had problems with one of you inappropriately flirting? What words of wisdom can you offer to us? Talk with me in the comments below! Please! I’d love to hear about your experiences.